3 Steps To End Negative Self Talk

3 Steps To End Negative Self Talk

In my mid 20s, I spent a lot of my time inside my head, with my thoughts. And at the worst of times, I had a consistent case of negative self talk. 

As a result, I was easily stressed from the expectations that I had put upon myself in regards to study, career and meeting society's definition of success. I was emotionally reactive, especially when it came to relationships, repeating familiar patterns. At that time, I guess I didn't really know who I was. I wished that I could somehow put a stop to this negative self talk that had wedged its way into my head and taken over my self esteem. 

However, I knew how I wanted to feel. I wanted to experience and appreciate life fully, seeing things in technicolor rather than through a greyscale lens. I wanted clarity around my identity so that I could live my life authentically. I wanted to live in flow rather than feeling the need to control a situation or hold onto expectations. And, I wanted to feel peace so that I could go about my day without stress or fear.

For the last 2 years, I have been working towards this. For me, the journey started with developing a greater sense of awareness and acceptance. 

It can be so easy for us to live life in autopilot, with a blurred vision of each moment and future projecting to the next thing. By simply bringing awareness to the flow of our thoughts, emotions and reactions, it can help us gain a deeper understanding around who we are, reduce the tendency for us to propagate negative self talk, and offer lightness and clarity.

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